I think #heteropride is a great idea!


Straight people, this is a great idea. The LGBTQ community has gay pride month to celebrate their sexuality, why shouldn’t you have one too? Pick a month, I don’t care which one, any month, and claim it as your own celebration of your love and sexuality. It’s long overdue. Come out to your friends and…

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Trauma, Public Health, and Personal Responsibility


This is important and everyone needs to understand it. This doctor also presents it very clearly, rationally, scientifically, and well. Please take 15 minutes of you day to watch this presentation, and then consider the following: It is vitally important that everyone understand the physiological changes caused by trauma (at any age, though this talk…

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The Best Butternut Squash Soup EVAR


I like my soup sweet and thick, like my men. If you are looking for something more savory, look elsewhere. If you want the best butternut squash soup you’ve ever tasted, do what I tell you. INGREDIENTS 1 butternut squash 2 carrots 1 granny smith or other sour cooking apple. (I’ve made this with regular…

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Gifts: for me?


My birthday is coming up and people have started asking me what I want and checking out my Amazon Wish List. That’s not a bad place to start, but it’s pretty random, mostly full of frivolous stuff or craft supplies for projects I’m not actively working on at the moment. If you prefer to buy…

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Cultural Appropriation: A Parable


I’ve been thinking about how to explain cultural appropriation to a friend of mine lately who had the really typical reaction most white people have to cultural appropriation: I can’t agree with someone who says I’m not allowed to like things from other cultures. I hear this objection a lot when people from other cultures…

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The Perfect Victim


The latest news out of the NFL is that Ray Rice is appealing his suspension, the one that he got on the grounds that he publicly, egregiously abused his wife Janay Rice. ┬áThe news about this is news about him, not her; her part of the news cycle is over, and she is now stricken…

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Financial Abuse: A Story


After reading this article on financial abuse, a good friend of mine asked me to anonymously share her story. I hope she doesn’t mind me editorializing just a bit. It’s important to note that what this story and other stories like it highlight is the presumption of entitlement by men to financial resources. It’s the…

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Recipe: Cheddar Squash Shortbread Biscuits


I have a lot of squash. No, stop. Back up and readjust your mental image of “a lot of squash” to include a lot more squash. Okay, got that? Now double it. Now make all the squash three times the size of the tiny little yellow things you see in the supermarket. My two summer…

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Ruby Jam: Resource Roundup


I’m co-hosting a Ruby Jam with my friend Rachel this weekend, and I want to throw up some resources so people know where to start. A Code Jam is basically a gathering where people get together to code. Sometimes for the purpose of companionship while they work on individual projects, sometimes for the purpose of…

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A New Tradition


My best friend is getting married next month and we’ve been talking wedding stuff a lot. Her wedding is non-traditional and I like that. I hate almost everything about traditional weddings but today I want to talk about my favorite tradition broken in her wedding. I don’t even have her to thank for it. No,…

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Pickles!


I have in my mind this ideal of a perfect dill pickle. Those giant crunchy ones you can only get fresh at a NY open market or county fair. They usually come out of a giant barrel of pickles and if you are doing the whole experience correctly you shove them directly in your face…

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Are Your Beliefs Too Easy?


One of the catchphrases from the most recent Supreme Court decision is “sincerely held beliefs.” I’m in the middle of writing a really detailed analysis and explanation of that court decision, but I’m procrastinating today by instead writing a tangent about “sincerely held beliefs” and what that means. I’ve been thinking a lot about it,…

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Why I Hate Mother’s Day


I’m a mother. I have two little girls, 6 and 8 as of this writing. I love them very much and have no regrets about becoming a mother. My own mother and I rarely see eye to eye on anything, but I know she loves me and did her best. Neither of these are the…

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Barefoot Living


It’s that time of year when my shoes come off and only go on so that I can walk into buildings where shoes and shirts are required. A lot of people find this really strange, some of them find it downright dangerous. What if you step on glass? Broken needles? Rocks? Thistles? Disease? Indeed, any…

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